Inclusion means being fully accepted and being different. But to belong, people often feel pressure to assimilate. Groups require some adaptation from members to function—but inclusion also calls us to create spaces where people can be fully themselves and fully part of the whole.
3. Comfort vs. Discomfort: balancing safety and stretch. Inclusion often involves comfort and psychological safety. But real inclusion also demands courage and vulnerability: hearing dissent, addressing bias, and leaning into growth—even when it feels uncomfortable, as it is likely to do in a diverse group or organization.
These are not either-or dilemmas. Trying to “solve” them by choosing one side usually intensifies the tension. Instead, we need to acknowledge, hold, and manage them with intention and care.
So, what can we do?
Fostering inclusion is everyone’s responsibility. Here are a few ways to act with intention while navigating these tensions:
Build relationships across differences
- Greet people genuinely. Learn names and stories. Help others feel seen.
- Listen with curiosity as an ally — not a critic. Ask to understand. Don’t rush to respond, defend, or dismiss.
Practice self-awareness
- Notice when you feel defensive or unsure — and lean in. Discomfort often signals growth.
- Check your impact. Recognize that while intentions matter, how your actions land matters more. Be open to feedback and willing to adjust.
Engage across difference
- Invite new voices. Encourage dissent. Seek out and consider multiple perspectives.
- Share information openly, along with your intent and thought process.
Think collectively
- Think “we,” not just “I.” Inclusion isn’t just about individual actions—it’s about creating shared norms of respect, trust, and belonging.
Inclusion isn’t a destination; it’s a practice. It’s how we show up, lead, listen, and adapt. And it’s work that never ends because our organizations and communities are always evolving.
When we choose to do the work of inclusion—imperfectly, persistently, and together—we create the conditions where everyone has a voice, a place, and a chance to thrive.
About the author:
Bernardo Ferdman, Ph.D., Principal of Ferdman Consulting and Distinguished Professor Emeritus at Alliant International University is a globally recognized leadership and organization development consultant, thought leader, and executive coach with 40 years of experience helping organizations transform diversity into a strategic advantage and inclusion into a tangible, lived experience. He is passionate about creating inclusive environments where everyone can thrive and accomplish goals effectively, productively, and authentically.